It seems that the society we live in today is judging people by their weight more than by their character, and it has been like that for a while. As someone who was always chubby, it was never easy for me to encounter girls with gorgeous bodies, but seeing what messages the entertainment industry is sending us about weight and body figure gets me down in the dumps like nothing else. I don’t know what’s worse, the fact that you can rarely see a woman who isn’t slim starring in a movie or a show, or the fact that other girls look up to these insanely skinny ladies. If you are slender, it looks like you have better chances to be liked by others. Those of us who are rounded often get mocked and we need to be extremely charismatic if we want to be appreciated by the rest of the world. This is something we can see in movies, TV shows, magazines and catalogs, read in books, etc. That’s why l feel like sharing my ways to stay sane in a weight-obsessed world with you.   

Surround yourself with those who appreciate you

There must be people who love you for who you are, no matter what you do, and definitely no matter how you look. Being with our kind relatives and friends who like our chunky appearance can really give us the strength to cope with anything. You can even read experiences of others, for example, there are bloggers who are eager to share their experiences of how they used to struggle with overweight but somehow managed to overcome it and learn a lot from their situation. Find those with an optimistic and positive point of view. Not just that they are more relatable, but they inspire us too, and a few motivational words never harmed anyone.

Don’t let your scales and mirror get you down

If you have to, throw your scales away! All those things do is make people feel sad and leaves them full of negative thoughts, feeling mostly insecure and like they aren’t pretty enough. Just like toxic relationships, food and other things that are bad for us, scales are poisoning our mood. Don’t use your scales and don’t stand in front of your mirror all the time, constantly finding new flaws and reasons not to like yourself.

Don’t make choices affecting you negatively

Try to do things that are good for you, for example, exercise, eat well, be active as much as possible. Just knowing you’re doing these things will make you feel better, even if you have to wait a long time to see the results you want. Ditch the fast food and take-out meals. You can always turn to healthy food, something you prepare yourself or order from one of the many companies delivering nice healthy meals in case you don’t have enough time to cook and prepare everything alone. 

No more fat talk

Even though our generations are quite diet-obsessed, thank god you can always find those who would rather skip fat talk and conversations about food, weight, and counting calories. I don’t know about you, but I’d rather talk about basically anything else. If you are struggling with overweight, fat talk can’t really help you, but it can make you feel depressed and anxious. Avoid these topics and people who always start them.

Don’t focus on calories, but on what really matters

Counting calories won’t help you lose weight, but being determined to do things like exercise, eat well, and be active regularly can. But you shouldn’t do all this because of becoming skinnier. You should do these things because they are healthy, because they make us feel good and make our lives more fulfilled. Focus on things that matter and forget about your appearance, weight, imperfections, and blemishes. There will always be people who find you attractive and perfect no matter what, especially if you have a good soul. Believe it or not, there are many people who look inside your soul rather than how your body looks like and what size you’re wearing.

Whatever you do or not do, remember that you’re beautiful the way you are. So am I. So is anyone else. We are all amazing and perfect and don’t ever look up to anyone you find more attractive than you are. Just be yourself and enjoy life since it has already been given to you. After all, you never know what problems skinny people have and if they are really happier.